Pregnancy

1. How can the father and I come to a decision about whether or not to keep the baby?
Ultimately, it is the women’s decision what to do with the baby. If the woman decides to make an adoption plan for her baby, then the father can file for custody of the child. The most important thing to remember is to not get angry at each other. You both created this child, so it is no more the other ones fault. Getting angry with the father or making him feel as if he isn’t wanted will push him away. It is equally his child; try to understand this, even if you are no longer in a relationship. Use phrases such as, “our baby” rather than “my baby”.

If the father of the baby tries to threaten you to have an abortion or give the baby up, you might want to alert people around you of the situation. Usually, this won’t become violent, but it is best to be prepared. The mother makes the final decision in what happens to the child, so do what you feel best, not what others want you to do.

2. How can I pay for the medical bills?
(pregnancy or abortion)
If you are pregnant and you don’t have the funds to cover the medical costs, you can try out for Medicaid. Medicaid provides free or low cost medical assistance for women in Washington based on their income and number of people in family. For more information go to http://www.metrokc.gov/health/insurance/pregnant.htm

When you get pregnant in Washington, the state counts you as two people so that you qualify for emergency medical coupons. These can help cover costs of abortion as well. To get information on how to apply, visit the community health clinic in your area.

3. Where can I go to get help?
There are so many options out there for getting help. School counselors, community health care clinics, hotlines, and websites. You are not alone!